Care Less, Happy More – Why You Shouldn’t Care

September 30, 2015 separator Blogging

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How’s everybody holding up so far this week?

Let me be honest with you. I’m tired and a little overwhelmed, and it sometimes feels like the internet is taking over my life. This is something I’ve talked about before, but with all the amazing women knocking it out of the park on Instagram and their blogs, I cycle through phases where I feel like I’m barely treading water.

It can be really hard to balance this blog with a full time job and still have time for my family, and I admire the heck out of the rock stars who find a way to do that so flawlessly. I know that anybody juggling a lot of different aspects of your life can relate to this.

But isn’t it bitchy to just not care?

For me, this quote doesn’t mean that you should be a less caring person. It means that you should focus less on what others think of you. Or, if we’re being really real here, you should focus less on what you’re imagining others think of you.

Guess what? Everybody’s not thinking about you all the time.

Non-bloggers please bear with me while I use blogging as an example. Because this is true of so many things, isn’t it?

Here’s the thing: your ideal reader isn’t out there staring at your blog and thinking, “Wow, it’s a real bummer that she’s not as good as so-and-so…” What are they actually thinking? Probably something more along the lines of “Cool cactus light!”

And then they move onto the next blog; enjoy a post; pin it; and the cycle continues.

Being your own fangirl is perfectly acceptable!

Like I said here, the important thing isn’t to be as good as somebody else. It’s to be true to your voice, style, and brand. Create original content; put it out there; and it will resonate with people!

The important thing is find a place that makes you happy and curl up there with a hot mug of coffee — or a martini. Find your place, and make it what you need it to be. 

17 comments

  1. Thank you…from the bottom of my heart. Comparing myself to others is a constant struggle for me. I’m not as good as so and so…or wow, their blog gets thousands of readers and comments, I’m lucky to get 5 a day. I immediately feel down and then realize, I’m here to share MY story MY way. I just need to keep being me and stop worrying about everyone else, what they are doing or what they think of what I’m doing. I need to focus on my little blog and my family and be happy 🙂 I even look at your success and your story in awe and think “Now that’s a girl I’d like to meet!” xo Liz http://www.4evermysweetpea.com

    1. Thank YOU so much for sharing your own story, Elizabeth! Isn’t that the worst party of it? We reach a milestone and then start comparing our own progress to the next tier on the scale. Let’s keep trying to do this less! <3

    1. That’s a great point, Jessie! I can’t even imagine the ways comparison creeps into the life of a parent. Thanks for your comment!

  2. This post rings so true! Isn’t it funny how we constantly worry about everyone else and they are probably doing the same thing? I also have a full time job and run my business and sometimes I just feel so overwhelmed that it’s crazy. Glad to hear I am not the only one feeling this way. Its nice to connect with other creative woman and start a little support system! I look forward to reading more of your blog!

    1. Thanks so much for your thoughtful comment, Alyssa! And I couldn’t agree more – we’re all caught in that silly revolving door! Hope you’re well!

  3. I loved reading this post. It’s been a stressful week here, and I can relate. Plus ‘Cool cactus light’ totally made me laugh out loud.
    Thanks for sharing 🙂

  4. Oh man did I need to read this today! Balance is such a difficult thing to find, and while you may feel like you’re treading water, just know that on this side it looks like you’re crushing it <3

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